Well, this is embarrassing. Apparently blogs are taboo. Why didn’t you guys tell me and save me the despair? Yesterday, I was told by a media expert (laughs) that;
“blogs are for bored people who ramble on about shit that nobody has time to read” – media expert
(laughs again) so in his honor I’ll ramble on about his shit. (He wont be reading this as he is far too busy, so we’re all good.)
I always appreciate advice from people who are so caught up in trend. Who govern their lives by what the majority are doing and are so darn scared to be seen to take a chance on anything that isn’t current, or pop culturally relevant. My question is though, who decides what is relevant, and why are you so loyal to their opinion? Surely relevance is something entirely subjective. What is relevant to me, may not be relevant to you? Unless of course, you’re willing to remove yourself as a subject and submit to becoming the person that “fits in”. A product of popular culture, an obedient clone nobly spreading the word, protecting us against what was “so yesterday”
Now, I hear you, and I see your point of view about a Vlog.
“Videos are so much easier to watch and engage with” – media expert.
They undoubtably have their place, but for now, this is not about being distracted by the ease in watching a video, and maybe, just maybe, my intention is not to engage with you but rather to encourage you to engage with yourself? Is that not more sustaining? And I don’t know, relevant?
Say what you will, but words, however imperfect, grammatically incorrect or improper are powerful. Think about it, you’re reading my thinking in the sound of your voice? How crazy is that. Vlogs may be engaging, but words are intimate. How close do my thoughts now lie next to yours, and how soon will you not be able to distinguish between my voice and your own? Especially if you’ve been conditioned to only speak up with the support of a crowd.
You see, it takes a strong mind to plough through words. Firstly to have the attention span and focus to do so, and secondly to get out on the other side of it and still have a unique voice, a sense of subject, identity and opinion of self that is not of a group. To read things that you don’t agree with, with as much ease and effortlessness as reading things that you do. To measure yourself, and the strength of your identity against conflicting ideals. It’s with this resistance, the push and pull of opinion that we develop strength and engrave our identity, and begin to distinguish who we are from everyone else, and what OUR thoughts truly sound like.
Anyway, I digress. What I was actually intending on writing about is criticism and how we should welcome it. Criticism reflects the things we most often find wrong about ourselves. So when someone is kind enough to offer you theirs, it’s important that you don’t put up a fence of offense, but rather pay attention to the insight they’re offering about themselves. After all, it’s those “things” we’re self conscious about that we most often notice about other people isn’t it? We try and gauge other people’s reactions against our self perceptions. For example; if you’re trying to lose weight the first thing you notice about everyone else is whether or not they’ve gained or lost weight. Relationships. Whether you’re finding yours difficult, or finding it difficult to find “yours”, you’ll be closely observing and criticizing the way everyone else conducts theirs. This is why tabloids and Reality TV are a thing. We’re hoping to find some sort of relief in the comparison. Relief.
For this reason, it’s often a good exercise to encourage criticism, to ask people to speak up of your flaw (or just listen in when they offer it freely to anyone within range) and pay attention to what they notice, and for you to then notice wherein lies their reflection. Also, when they catch onto your ability to recognize them in all of this, they’ll think twice about exposing themselves in this way again, and seek to find relief elsewhere.
Anyway. Those of you who know me (even just a little bit) understand that I don’t take myself as seriously as it seems, and that I appreciate good humor, humility and banter over rigidity and pretentiousness. That I’m as much of a tease as I am a nerd. So, to the expert that keeps mocking absolutely everything I post, I appreciate your concern over my credibility and reputation and see it as your own. I also appreciate the fact that you won’t be able to mention reading this.
It’s been fun.